It is still the beginning of the new year, I mean kinda. It’s mid January-Many people made New Year’s resolutions and I’m wondering how many have people stuck with them thus far. They (whoever “they” are) say that it takes 21 days to make a habit, and if people started their resolutions right away, then today their new routines (food, exercise, attitude) should now be a habit.
I don’t make resolutions. I give myself a theme word for the year. And then I set goals to go along with that theme word and make changes accordingly. I’ve set some goals for my website, FB page and blog and I plan on making changes. But before I even started, I quit. I knew if I wanted to be successful I had to quit a few things first. Below are a few of them.. I’m thinking a few of you might be able to relate!
I Quit Expecting Perfection.
I expect myself to do something and do it to the best of my ability, often expecting perfection- a level I will never achieve because, well, it’s clearly obvious, I’m not Jesus. Only Jesus was perfect. So I had to quit expecting perfection from myself. That totally relieved a lot of the pressure I was putting on myself.
2 Corinthians 12:9
“And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness ” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.”
I Quit Listening to the Voices of Doubt in My Head.
In one of my blogging groups they call them gremlins. These little turds suck the life out of any confidence you have in yourself or your ability. You can be incredibly gifted from God and these little dudes come along and cause you to doubt the very ability the Lord gave you. So I will constantly be quitting- this is one I’m sure I will always battle. But I’m going to continuously remind myself that it is God working in me and that it is up to Him to do the work through me, in spite of any gremlin in my head. I will listen to His voice and silence the gremlins.
“For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.”
I Quit Giving in to the Fear.
I have allowed fear to paralyze me for too long. We have only one life to live. I will no longer allow fear to limit me in any way shape or form (except a hot air balloon ride- I am ok with skipping out on that because I hate heights). But when it comes to taking risks and chances for personal growth, I’m all in! I’m giving 100% in to my dreams and I quit allowing fear to build walls around me trapping me on the inside and keeping me from the potential that lies beyond those walls.
Joshua 1:9 “This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
I Quit Negative Talk.
This one is my fav! I don’t want to talk negatively about anyone or anything. Whether it is negative self talk or negative conversation with others. I want to be that person that is the eternal optimist. I want to rephrase words like “risks” into “adventures”. I don’t want to hear or repeat gossip. It makes me feel gross and it does nothing but cause sideways energy- it wastes positive energy that could be propelling others forward instead of tearing them down. I want to build others up in a way that they feel like they are capable of pursuing any dream. They need not be weighted down by negativity. When others walk away from me, I want them to feel like they could stay another hour in a conversation of encouragement and optimism.
1 Thessalonians 5:11
“Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.”
“Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”
I Quit Pursuing the Dreams of Others.
In order to fulfill the vision the Lord has given me, I had to quit focusing in on helping everyone around me achieve their dreams and neglecting my own. There was a time when it was a part of God’s plan. I was able to help others pursue their dreams. I learned so much from them. But I had gotten so caught up in helping other’s pursue their dreams, I had abandoned the dreams God had given me in my heart. Helping others achieve their dreams is wonderful thing, but not at the expense of my own dreams and calling. I will continue to help others but I will no longer put my dreams on the burner. God has opened up the door for me and I’m going after it.
“Trust in the lord and do good. Then you will live safely in the land and prosper.
Take delight in the lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires.
Commit everything you do to the lord. Trust him, and he will help you.”
In order to succeed, I had to quit a few bad habits before I got started! I sure am glad I did.. and if I pick up some of these bad habits again, I’ll continue to quit over and over to go after my dreams. But I sure am hoping that 21 day habit thing is true- if so, then I’ll have five new positive habits to help set me up for success!
Perhaps there are a few things you may want to consider quitting as well…
Until next time!